Showing posts with label Attracting narcissists. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Attracting narcissists. Show all posts

Mar 27, 2016

I Will Never Call Her Again: Mother The Narcissist

U.S.

'I Will Never Call Her Again': Daughter of Missing Indiana Woman Discovered 42 Years Later Has No Plans for a Happy Reunion

staff@people.com (Hilary Shenfeld @HilaryShen),People 2 hours 20 minutes ago 
this is my best friend

Jul 23, 2015

from dear abby: throws daughter under the bus

Daughter Struggles To Resolve Mom's Failure To Defend Her

Dear Abby


DEAR ABBY: I'm in my early 50s, disabled and live with my elderly mother. Between the ages of 8 and 11 I was sexually abused by my adoptive father. My mother finally caught him in the act, but the next day they acted like nothing had happened. He never did it again, and it was never spoken about, ever.
I have read about women who caught their husbands abusing their children and kicked them out, pressed charges, etc. It makes me think I didn't matter enough for her to do that. I confronted her about it a few years ago. Her response was that it would have been in all the papers (my parents were prominent local musicians in our town), and there was no way she could have raised two kids on her own.
I still have a deep ache in my soul that tells me that I don't matter as much as other human beings. I resist going to therapy because I live with her and I know she will quiz me about what we talked about in the sessions. I just want to keep the peace and not risk her going into a tirade about how she "did what she had to do." I don't know what to do. Please help. -- STILL HURTING IN NEVADA
DEAR STILL HURTING: You should absolutely talk about this to a therapist. If your mother demands to know what you're discussing, tell her. If she unleashes a tirade, invite her to accompany you to a session so she can explain to your therapist that she didn't kick her child-molesting husband out because she was afraid she couldn't support herself and two children alone. (Was your sibling also assaulted?)
You and your mom are both adults. You should be able to have a frank discussion without her intimidating you with her anger. If anyone has a right to be angry, it is you. And she should clearly understand how her inaction affected you for all these years, and possibly your sibling, as well.


copied from yahoo.com



Wishing the very, very  best to this strong and courageous lady.....thank you for sharing your story.................my mother has always been very selfish, too.  It never stops being painful--seriously, my mother has thrown me under the bus quite a few times for several different people.  She will do anything to get what she wants when she wants it and if she can convince the other person to vilify me in the process she will pay them in some way...........yes, supporting my ex-husband and his girlfriend to take away my children.   It never ends.......thanks again for sharing.

Jun 18, 2014

So there is hope for mother.....CAN NARCISSISTS BE HEALED? Notice the squirrel





What.....at 97......maybe not......I'm afraid mother did suffer very many taumas, particularly in her young life.



This may have caused her to feel she was God, Bill O'Reilly or a ballroom dancer.....all of the same in mother's mind.



The terrorized became the terrorist........lack of compassion for anyone or anything.......yet everyone should feel very sorry for mother........yes, that would be having a daughter and then having to get a job........which seriously reduced her available time for ballroom dancing.



And this is why she is angry with me because I have ruined her life.



Thanks, Dr. Sam, I'm starting to get it now.